Have you ever caught yourself telling a lie – to yourself? The lies we tell ourselves are recognizable, and insidious, because they are heard in our own voice, but with a mean edge to it that makes us feel badly about ourselves. This is our Liar Voice and when it is speaking to us it is helpful to be able to identify it as such.
For instance, do you have a blouse or shirt in a drawer or a pair of jeans in your closet that you can’t wear, but you keep because some day you’ll be able to squeeze your body back into them? Nothing wrong with having a goal and if looking at a pair of too small jeans motivates you to take better care of yourself, then there’s no harm done. But if every time you look at those jeans or that top and you hear a voice berating you for not being able to wear them, that’s your Liar Voice. And until you are able to dismiss that loud, rude voice that tries to make you feel bad, you might be better served tossing those clothes out. Besides, when you do get to wear those jeans I think you deserve a cool, new pair. Don’t you?
Here’s another lie I often catch myself perpetrating: I’ll put those files, mail, books away later. Even though eventually I get around to putting whatever it is in its appropriate place, I know that wherever I set it down is where it will remain, likely until company is coming for a visit. If I hear my Liar Voice when I profess that I will do it later, then I’m much more likely to put whatever is in my hand wherever it belongs right then. Task completed and I won’t have to run around like an Olympic speed skater trying to clear the clutter before someone shows up at my door.
Sometimes our Liar Voice tells us things that we should never believe. We should discount anything that voice says that begins with:
“I am too fat, too old, too poor….” or “I am not good enough, smart enough, thin, rich, free enough….”
These are the most dangerous and harmful of all the things our Liar Voice tells us and we must remain vigilant in silencing these lies. I find a chant from childhood helpful in quieting this kind of destructive chatter. When I hear that nasty, mean voice saying negative things about me, with great belligerence, I repeat, “Liar, liar, pants on fire!”
Not even my Liar Voice has a good comeback for that!